Before: talk it through
- What you want and what you don't, first separately, then together.
- A word or a sign to leave at any moment.
- What you'll do if one of you feels uncomfortable.
Your first time at a swingers club
The island's clubs usually open from Wednesday to Sunday in the evening. On a first visit, the staff usually show you around and explain the house rules. Many couples just watch the first time, and that's perfectly fine.
Rules that apply everywhere
- No means no, at any time.
- No photos and no videos.
- Condoms, always.
- Discretion inside and out.
Soft swap, full swap or just watching
There's no must. Some couples only watch, others stay in the same room each with their own partner, and others swap fully. Agree beforehand what's on the table for you and review it together afterwards.
Afterwards: the talk that matters
The next day, talk about what you liked and what you didn't. That conversation decides whether there's a second time, and no is a perfectly valid answer.
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FAQ
Do we have to do anything the first time?
No. Just watching is completely normal.
What if we change our minds?
Then you leave. No explanations needed.
Is jealousy normal?
Yes, it's the most common worry at the start. Talking about it beforehand and agreeing on a stop sign makes it much easier.